Relationships, Why Won’t The Stars Align?

Good morning. And good, whatever it might be, wherever you are. Welcome to Practicing Truth.

Before I get started, let me credit the music. Someone Like You, by Danielle Ponder. Thank you for stopping by.

I hope you take what I say as food for thought. Have a fabulous day!

Some dream of that special someone and wait much of their lives for them to come along and sweep them off their feet. Someone to love, trust, and share with. Someone who will love them in the way they want to be loved. But then, after they've found that person, they soon find themselves unsatisfied. Everything not what they wanted or thought it was going to be. So the relationship slowly unravels, and no matter the compromise on both sides, the result and the dream pale in comparison.

So, what happened? Why didn't things work out? In fact, why do things always seem to not work out?

You ask, is it me? Are my expectations too high? Unrealistic? Possibly. But most conclude that it was the other person. They misrepresented themselves. Lied. And over time, some become cynical. There's no one for me. No one I can trust. No one to love me like I want to be loved. All, and fill in the blank here, are the same!

But they're not. Some are bad, some are good, some are indifferent, and some are better suited than others. However, none are perfect! And neither are we.

Angels don't custom-make relationships in heaven. Specially designing one person to complement another. We build relationships. Here, on Earth. And though many think relationships begin with attraction and love, they actually start, with personal growth and development. Maturity. Understanding one's self. And recognizing one's own needs in the needs of another.

They continue with vetting, patience, not ignoring warning signs, and paying attention to detail. Attraction and love are but aspects of the foundation of a relationship. To be built upon. Neither together nor alone can either sustain the long-term challenges a relationship might encounter.

To survive, relationships require more than attraction. More than love. They require trust, devotion, teamwork, and a willingness to allow compromises wherein each maintains their dignity. They require the removal of pedestals and a concerted effort to achieve equality, regardless of income or position.

Long-term relationships are like a block of clay. Unformed. And then, over time, with a positive vision and concerted effort transformed into the reality we dreamed it would be.

Thanks for listening.

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